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My Wife Beryl.

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I have not been around for a while as my lovely wife Beryl has been in hospital again, having made a successful recovery from her brain hemorrhage last year she had returned to doing to light rowing and was doing ok. Unfortunately 5 weeks ago Beryl suffered a bowel blockage and required an emergency operation. Ber has been diagnosed with cancer and requires six months of chemotherapy. I am afraid to say its incurable but we are told the chemo can stop it advancing.It was a real shock but being the girl she is, Beryl is very positive about her treatment and outcome and has given me a couple of verbal kickings to get my eyes back in the boat!! Ber is recovering well from her op and getting her self ready for her chemo sessions which start next week..I have to say she is a class act and I am very proud of her courage.

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So sorry to hear that Chris. Poor girl. She's been through the mill in the past twelve months.

Please pass on to Beryl our best wishes during this difficult time.

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So sorry to hear about this setback, Chris :!: :cry:

As you describe it she is coping magnificently - and you can surely be very proud of her :!: 8)
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Chris I am so sorry to hear your news, I'd like to add my own best wishes.

Please know that you are both in the thoughts of the whole Free Spirits Communiey.
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Really sad to hear about Beryl. :( I just mentioned it to my wife as she is a chemo nurse.

Our thoughts are with you both Chris.
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I'm sorry to hear that Duckrunner. I'll be thinking of you and your family.
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Sorry to hear your news Chris. Best wishes to you both for the months ahead.
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Best wishes to you and Beryl during the next few months and beyond. I suspect there'll be tough times and a few tears ahead but stay strong mentally and rest assured the team are all behind you.

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Thinking of you both at this time, Chris. All the best to you and Beryl over the coming months.
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I am so sorry to hear this. The chemo is very tiring but they have medicines that can counteract things like the nausea etc. so be sure and mention any problems and they can be helped, usually.

I shall be thinking of you both; this is such a difficult thing to go through.

The best advice we ever had from anyone came from the consultant who broke the news to us. She said "Don't look back to the way you were. Don't borrow trouble and worry about what's to come. There is today, and you do your best to enjoy it. If it's a good day, make memories to relive when things aren't so good. If it's a bad day, just go with it and find little things to make it easier". This was so helpful, and yet it sounds so simple.

The other thing we did that took a bit of teeth gritting was we allowed ourselves one hearty cry a day each. After that, crying was done for the day thankyou. And if you didn't cry yesterday that doesn't mean you're entitled to two cries today!

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Best wishes to you both and the rest of the family, but especially Beryl.
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Very sorry to hear your news Chris. Best wishes to you and Beryl.

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Wendy wrote:The best advice we ever had from anyone came from the consultant who broke the news to us. She said "Don't look back to the way you were. Don't borrow trouble and worry about what's to come. There is today, and you do your best to enjoy it. If it's a good day, make memories to relive when things aren't so good. If it's a bad day, just go with it and find little things to make it easier". This was so helpful, and yet it sounds so simple.
Very well said, Wendy.

I am so sorry to hear this, Duckrunner.

This is a very special time. Every day is hard - I know that - and some days are harder than others, but it is also a special time. No matter what, there will always something, every single day, to be thankful for... some memory that you will cherish in the years to come. Take a moment, breath deeply, and treasure what you have.

I know this sounds trite, and I hope you won't take it that way.

My thoughts are with you and your wife.

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Very sorry to hear your news Chris - wishing you and Beryl all the very best in the coming months - be strong!!

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Adversity has ever been considered the state in which a man most easily becomes acquainted with himself.

My thoughts are with you both and may you both be strong and close in the months to come.

The courage to even post the news makes me feel very shallow.

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Chris, my thoughts are with you and Beryl.
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A lot of wise words from our team here.

Wishing the best for you both through these tough times.
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I'm very sorry to hear those terrible news. I'm wishing you the best for the time ahead of you.
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Chris. Best wishes to Beryl and you and your family. We are all thinking about you.

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Really sorry to read your news Chris . Wishing you both, and all of your family the best for the time ahead
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All the best Chris at this difficult time
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Thats tough news Chris coming after last years problems, please give my regards to Beryl and give her a hug from me.
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Chris,

Kia Ora,
I am sorry to hear your news. It is never a good time to hear this sort of news, but in true Kiwi fashion: Shoulders back, head up and start marching. Beryl needs you and your strength at this time and in the future. You are never alone and neither is Beryl. Your Free Spirits Team is right behind you and you need only ask.

Take care and best wishes

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Chris,
I wondered what was up a few weeks ago when I saw a vague post on FB, but missed the post here. Very sorry to hear you got such bad news, but glad Beryl has approached it with a positive attitude. Wendy's advice was great and hope that you and Beryl are blessed with some good days in the upcoming months.
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